God is far more interested in who we are when no one's looking, than the image we present to others. Character always trumps reputation. Our character is the sum of our values, our thoughts, our words and our actions. Our reputation is shaped and fashioned pre-dominantly by what others see publicly. Character is like a tree and reputation its shadow. The shadow is what we think it is, and the tree is the real thing. - Abraham Lincoln
So, go on, embrace your femininity, love your body, exercise and eat well, just know that you are so much more than just the skin you're in, and yes, sex sells, but women are not meant to be mere products for marketing campaigns. They have brains behind their beauty, and passion, and drive, and kindness in their veins.
I want to wake up in the morning and grab my bible, not my phone.
I want to practice what I preach and care more about following Him, than who's following me.
I want my public life to be a reflection of my private one.
I want the hidden places to hold more value than the platform does.
I want to be more secure with less to prove.
More loved and less consumed.
For the mistakes I've made and the harsh words I've said. For the times I uttered with utmost conviction, "I hate you". My goodness, I am so sorry, I really did not mean that. Those words are lies. I love you more than anything. You are the one woman who literally formed me in her body and put my to sleep every night. For any hurt or heartache I have caused you please forgive me for that too. And lastly,
Almost from birth, I think little girls are prone to competing and comparing with one another; they battle to be the prettiest, the smartest, the sweetest, the fastest. Not much changes over time. Women still feel the need to constantly look sideways and compare themselves to the girl-next-door. This time it's bodies, babies, husbands & pay checks. The list may have changed but it's all the same.
What the world sees on social media and what goes on in real life can be two very different things. I've come to realise that I’m pretty good at only showing people what I want them to see. I edit every word, crop out every flaw and filter every photo.
I think young people are the most susceptible to the negative side effects of social media. They are vulnerable to peer pressure and insecurity, no surprise as they are only just beginning to forge their identities and starting to ask the question, "who am I? And how do I fit into this world"? Add the weight of a daily fixation on the perfect body and the coolest squad and you've got one giant popularity contest.
I think we all need "friends with benefits." Not the type that you may think. Personally the whole exchange of sexual acts with no strings attached seems like an incredibly bad idea. Seriously, a ridiculously, in no way, shape, or form, going to end well idea! This is what I think real “friends with benefits looks like.
Today we are exposed to media more than ever, and more than ever media is sending us the message that we aren’t okay the way we are. Even if we know the images we are seeing are photoshopped, carefully crafted by stylists, make-up artists and lighting specialists. We still buy into to the idea that tanned & toned babes with cute lips and stick pins are what we need to aspire to.
Having a baby is totally amazing, but let’s be honest for a second - it can be kinda scary, mega hectic and ridiculously lovely all meshed into one. There’s so much the books don’t cover and your friends forget to tell you. Here are some things I learnt on the job!
We pay more attention to people online, than those sitting in front of our faces.
We reach for our phones and check how many likes before we even get out of bed.
We have hundreds of "friends" (on Facebook at least), but very few who know us for real.
We take a million selfies, but deep down we don't even like what we see.
We work more, but enjoy less.
We have big opinions, but little understanding.
We have more things, but less contentment.
We talk a lot, but forget to listen.
So being a mum isn’t really a job - It’s more like a permanent voluntary position; paid in love, hugs and amateur artwork. Despite the unbeatable perks of motherhood and that heavenly baby skin smell (omg delish) being a mother is no walk in the park (contrary to Instagram's flawless depiction). Motherhood is in fact the toughest and the greatest "thing" I have every experienced.
When I was 16 I thought I knew everything. A few years have passed since then and I have realised I actually didn’t know everything (ha funny that right)! If I could stand face to face with my 16-year-old self I would have a lot to tell her. She probably wouldn’t listen but I’ll say it anyway!
Whether we like it not we are the “selfie” generation. Every few minutes thousands of selifes hit the internet worldwide. No surprise, as there are over 500 million Facebook lovers, 100 million Instagram hipsters & 650 million Twitter fans. (I got that from Google so it must be right ha!).
My name is Sabrina and I’m an addict. Not a day goes by that I don’t need a ‘hit’. It’s the first thing I do in the morning and the last thing I do at night. It’s not even intentional. It’s a habit, an urge, a subconscious obsession. I’m embarrassed to admit it but I’m a social media junkie!
Am I the only one who's found themselves feeling envious and deflated after a few minutes of scrolling through their Insty feed? Gee, I hope not ha! I think it's so easy to feel that way when we compare our everyday "ordinary" lives to the Pinterest "perfect" ones we see on our screens.