“Marriage is ‘just’ a piece of paper."

"It’s no guarantee that you’ll even stay together."

"I don’t need a big fancy wedding to prove how in love we are.”

I have heard people say all of these things! It honestly leaves me scratching my head thinking, “that’s just cray cray”? Do people seriously think marriage is JUST a piece of paper? Do people seriously think that once you have a ring on your finger you’re guaranteed happily ever after? Do people seriously believe that the wedding is the main event? Supposedly SOME do. Well not me amigos. I believe marriage is a public declaration of a private confession.

1. Legally marriage is a contract

2. Spiritually marriage is a covenant

3. Emotionally marriage is companionship

Yes, two people can live together, sleep together and love each other very deeply outside of marriage (without signing anything!) but there is something special and virtuous when a man says, “you are my wife”! And she replies, “you are my husband, my one and only”. Hashtag #bae #legit #iwontbreakupwithyounextweek Of course a piece of paper isn’t necessary to love someone (and actually stay with them for a very long time, even a life time). But regardless of what anyone says in many avenues of society… Paper carries value! Don’t think so? If a stranger walked into my home and decided they liked it and wanted it they couldn’t just claim it. You know why? I signed a “piece of paper” and that document says full ownership of the house is mine.

Nothing can change that (unless they sign another piece of paper and are willing to pay the price for it!)!The paper carries weight because of what it represents. And what about that tiny certificate you receive when you graduate university? Do we ever devalue and diminish that accomplishment to “just” a piece of paper? If you study medicine for several years to become a doctor, do you do it for the paper? No, you do it for what it represents: skills, knowledge, competency. The piece of paper you sign to signify your marriage is a sign of a concrete commitment. It is more than just saying, “I love this person today”, it is saying, “I’ll stick around on the days that I don’t”.

“In every marriage more than a week old, there are grounds for divorce. The trick is to find, and continue to find, grounds for marriage.” ~ Robert Anderson

“It’s no guarantee that you’ll even stay together.”

Well dah! There is no such thing as a guaranteed happily ever after. This is not Walt Disney, people. Things don’t just work out. It takes love, respect, kindness and commitment (and in the midst of life’s pressures and demands, they are not always easy to give). Some days you might not want to stay together but the promise you made you supersedes the feelings you have.

“One advantage of marriage is that, when you fall out of love with him or he falls out of love with you, it keeps you together until you fall in again.” ~ Judith Violist

Forever and ever doesn’t happen by accident and no one is silly enough to think it will just because you have a ring on your finger. I absolutely love this quote by Sydney J. Harris:

“Almost no one is foolish enough to imagine that he automatically deserves great success in any field of activity; yet almost everyone believes that he automatically deserves success in marriage.”

A good marriage takes effort and sacrifice, forgiveness and growth. It doesn’t guarantee you’ll stay together forever but at least it says “I’m willing to try”.

“I don’t need a big fancy wedding to prove how in love we are”.

If people think marriage is all about the wedding, they’ve got it all wrong. The wedding is just the beginning. Sadly, the culture we live in today always seems to make it the end! Every movie climaxes at a passionate kiss or a big white dress! Well, Hollywood has done a lousy job at depicting real life. The focus has always been falling in love, when to be honest that’s the easy part. It’s staying in love that can be hard. Let’s escape the reality show and actually get back to reality. The wedding is not the main event! What comes afterwards is the real story and can bring beauty and strength to one’s life.

“In the opinion of the world, marriage ends all, as it does in a comedy. The truth is precisely the opposite: it begins all.” ~ Anne Sophie Swetchine

I’ve also heard people say, “marriage ruins your sex life”.

Sorry, I can’t hear you. I’m too busy making out with my ridiculously hot husband to reply to that. 

 
 

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