Grace without truth leads to behaviour without restraint and societies that say anything goes. Truth without grace leaders to judgemental christians, meaningless rules and empty religion. Both can be incredible damaging. The gospel should never be altered so that is palatable to mans taste. It's not meant to be easy to swallow, it is meant to change people from the inside out when they partake of the gift freely given to them.
“For starters, waiting forced us to establish a relationship that was not solely built on lust (I’m not saying it was easy, but it can be done and is worth it.) We were able to get to know each other and see each other’s personality faults and strengths without the distraction of an intense sexual relationship. We were also able to decide (without guilt or feeling obligation) whether this person was the one we could actually live with for the rest of our lives.
It’s easy for a guy to be dictated by his sex drive. To follow every impulse and let lust be his guide. It’s easy for a girl to use her body for attention. To reveal every asset coz that’ll get ya mentioned. Post a pic at the beach with your feet in the sand - 24 likes and a comment from your best friend, Sam. Flip the camera and get the cleavage in the shot - 240 likes and 20 guys saying, “Damn, you’re hot!”
How far is too far? That's the number one question on the minds of Christian teenagers all over the planet. They want to know what they can touch, taste, & caress (pre-marriage) before God gets mad at them or they end up feeling guilty. They often ask me, "Sabrina where's the line? How far can I go?" They expect me to list a bunch of super raunchy acts that are "off limits" and give them the thumbs up to pash off with their current crush.
The bible is black and white. This is not how sex should be. It should not only serve to meet the needs of one person. I don’t care how much Hollywood tries to convince me. Sex with no limits is like a fire with unbridled. In the right context it brings heat and light, unleashed with no restraint it burns down buildings and leaves wreckage in its wake.
My virginity was not a determination of my Christianity, it was an outworking of my faith I did not do it to please God or other Christians. I did it because I believed God was a loving dad that had my best interests at heart. I believed His word was truth and a guide for getting the most out of life.
When I was a teenager I kissed all the boys. And when I say all I mean at least half my class, (gulp!) At 18 I read a book that changed my life and I decided I should probably stop doing that. I made up my mind the next guy that I dated I wanted to marry and well…I did.
You are not less of a person (let alone less of a Christian) because of your past choices or your sexual status. No behaviour can disqualify you from the grace of God or the purpose He has for your life. My desire for this blog is to not just encourage you about your future choices but to remind you, you are not defined by your previous ones.