In the world of relationships, we often focus on spotting red flags that indicate potential pitfalls, but it's just as important to appreciate the positive counterparts – the green flags. Green flags are like the unsung heroes of lasting love, helping us create love-filled and long-lasting relationships.

If red flags are caution signs, green flags are the reassuring mile markers showing us that we're on the right track.

They're the moments that make us pause and say, "Wow, we've got something special here. So, let's put the spotlight on those green flags and celebrate the everyday joys of love – trust, respect, and all those little gestures that make our relationships amazing.

So, whether you're single, dating, or already married, let’s explore these green flags together.

1.you hold Shared Values

Scientific research consistently demonstrates that shared values and beliefs are the bedrock of a strong and lasting relationship. The convergence of core values not only fortifies the emotional connection between partners but also plays a pivotal role in enhancing relationship stability and long-term satisfaction. Consider these questions:

What are the key values that both you and your partner hold dear, and how do they align or differ?
In what ways do your shared values contribute to the depth of your emotional connection and overall happiness as a couple?
How have your shared beliefs influenced your ability to navigate challenges and conflicts together?
Have you discussed your long-term goals and aspirations to ensure they are in harmony, fostering a sense of shared purpose?

2. YOU’RE INTERDEPenDeNT (NOT CO-DEPENDENT)

Codependent relationships are marked by an unhealthy emotional reliance on each other, often driven by a need for validation and fear of abandonment. Enabling destructive behaviors and low self-esteem are common in such relationships, hindering personal growth and independence.

In contrast, interdependent relationships are based on mutual support, respect for boundaries, shared goals, and effective communication.

It’s like walking a tightrope between togetherness and independence. In these partnerships, individuals maintain their self-identity while contributing to each other's well-being, resulting in balanced and fulfilling connections that promote personal growth and resilience.

In this dynamic, you're not just two individuals coexisting; you're a team. Each of you contributes to the well-being of the relationship and draws strength from your connection. It's a beautiful give-and-take that fuels your love and your individuality is celebrated, not stifled.

3. you feel emotionally and PHYSICALLY safe

In a healthy relationship, you feel like you’re cocooned in a warm blanket of security, and it's not just about emotional security – it's a whole package. This safety net stretches over your emotional, psychological, and even physical well-being.

Emotionally, it means you can bare your soul without fear. You can share your deepest thoughts and feelings, knowing that your partner will catch you stay and not run away.

There's no judgment, just a safe space to be your true self.

Psychologically, it's about resolving conflicts with empathy and respect. There's no emotional landmine waiting to explode; instead, you work through issues together, hand in hand.

Setting and respecting boundaries are part of the deal. Your partner knows where the lines are, and they do their best to cross them.

And let's not forget the physical aspect – you feel physically safe. There's trust that your partner won't harm you, and there's no fear lurking in the shadows. You can relax, knowing that you're protected.

4. You can talk things through without them ESCALATING

In a healthy relationship, there's a golden rule: you can talk about anything without it turning into a battlefield. It's all about open, honest, and respectful communication.

Partners who can express their needs, thoughts, and feelings while genuinely appreciating their partner's point of view tend to experience something magical – higher relationship satisfaction and a deeper emotional connection.

In essence, mastering the art of discussing sensitive matters without triggering escalation is a hallmark of a psychologically sound and thriving relationship. So, when you can talk things through without the drama, you're in the sweet spot. It's a sign that you've got the tools to keep your connection strong, no matter what life throws your way.

5. They treat others well (especially their parents and siblings).

You can tell a lot about a person by the way they treat their family, especially their parents and siblings. It's like a window into their character and values.

When your partner treats their parents and siblings with kindness and respect, it's a clear sign that they value family bonds, you've got yourself a keeper. It's a promising indicator of their character and a sign that they'll bring that same warmth and care into your relationship.

6. they’re Empathetic AND SELF-AWARE

It's not just about mouthing the words, "I understand," but actually stepping into your partner's shoes and experiencing their emotions alongside them. It's the magic that makes you feel truly seen and heard, creating a profound connection like no other.

When your partner is empathetic, they're not just listening; they're diving into the whirlpool of your emotions with you. They're right there in the trenches, sharing the highs and lows. It's like they're saying, "Your feelings matter to me, and I'm here for you, no matter what."

When your partner is self-aware, they possess a deep understanding of their own emotions, strengths, weaknesses, and desires. This self-awareness allows them to communicate more effectively, express their needs and boundaries clearly, and navigate conflicts with greater emotional intelligence.

7. they're Trustworthy and Truthful

When you can trust your partner with your deepest thoughts and secrets, it's like having a vault of emotional intimacy. Research tells us that honesty is like the cement that holds the bricks of a relationship together. It's what makes the connection solid and unbreakable.

I've witnessed partners trying to conceal their hidden struggles, like secretive addictions to things like porn or gambling. Even though these issues may not always be out in the open, they can quietly erode the very foundation of the relationship, weakening it from the inside out.

Having a partner who's genuinely authentic and trustworthy, seems to be rare in this day and age, but it really shouldn’t be. So, don't take it for granted.

8. they’re GENUINELY humble and full of integrity

Good partners have a knack for bringing out the best in those around them. They don't strut around with arrogance or cockiness; they're down-to-earth and genuinely humble. It's like they have this magnetic quality that makes you feel valued and important when you're with them.

And when it comes to integrity, they're the real deal. You won't catch them lying or trying to pull a fast one. They're the ones who keep their word and live by their principles, even when no one is watching.

9. You're both fully committed.

Research consistently underscores the pivotal role of commitment in the context of enduring relationships. This commitment, which extends beyond mere formalities such as marriage or symbols like rings, serves as a foundational predictor of long-term satisfaction in a partnership.

True commitment involves a profound and unwavering dedication to both one's partner and the relationship itself. It entails a continuous investment of time, energy, and effort, akin to the fuel that sustains the vitality of love over time.

10. IF YOU’RE CHRISTIAN, CHRIST IS THE CORNERSTONE OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP

If you’re a believer, Christ isn’t just a part of your relationship; He’s the bedrock upon which everything else is in your life is built.

In your relationship, faith isn't a box to check; it’s the whole package.

It’s the foundation. The fundamental pillar holding you together. Both partners prioritise their relationship with Christ, striving to live out His teachings of love, grace, and compassion in every interaction. Their spiritual connection is nurtured through shared prayers, worship, and a commitment to grow together in faith.

In a Christ-centered relationship, every decision, every action, revolves around Christ's example. It's a living testament to the Christian value of putting God first in all aspects of life. It's not just a partnership; it's a sacred journey where you walk hand in hand with your Savior at the helm.

Let these green flags serve as both your compass and a constant reminder.

P.S What else would you add to the list? Comment below. Would love to hear your thoughts.