I can guarantee you one thing in marriage: your spouse will hurt you (and you'll probably hurt them too). I know I've hurt Ben too many times to count. Too many times I’ve uttered callous words of criticism in the heat of an argument. Too many times I’ve held onto resentment for a broken promise or unmet expectation. Too many times I’ve fought to be right, rather than happy. Hurt is inevitable, but offence is up to you.